How to be an awesome camping buddy. TIP #4

How to be an awesome camping buddy. This post: how to receive critisism like a boss.
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Sometimes when you work and live closely with someone, you'll get into more serious conflicts. This means talking things through on a deeper level, and often receiving criticism in the process. 
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Receiving negative feedback is difficult, and the more important the person is to you, the more difficult it can get. In these situations there are a few caveats that are really easy to fall into. 
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The first and probably most common, is to spend too little time listening. Usually we listen a few seconds before we jump to a conclusion about what the other person is saying/feeling/thinking (filling in the blanks ourself). Then we start planning what we're going to say back, making sure the other person understands that we're right and they're wrong. 
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What we really should be doing, is to make sure we understand what the other person thinks and feels. This should happen before we even think about what to say back. 
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When in situations like this, repeat your buddys words back to him/her to make sure you've understood what they mean. Show interest in why the person thinks or feels that way and ask open ended questions about the issue your buddy has. 
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Having this focus is a great place to start. In some conflicts feeling understood might be the only thing the other person want, ending the conflict there. In the rest of the cases it'll still be a great starting point since you'll spend the rest of your time solving the actual problem and not what you think the problem is. 
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If this fits with the kind of relationship you have with your camping buddy, then try it. If it feels like a far fetch for you, just leave it be.